Beyond the fear of moving outside of our comfort zones, there's also the frustration of stagnation. After all, we see the project, the dream, and our future, and we're suddenly wracked by immobility.
We feel overwhelmed, out of breath, freaked out by the prospect of getting "it" done.
How the hell will I get there? There's too much to do! It feels too big!
So we hide under the covers, ignore our desires, and before we know it, we feel stuck in cement--unable to move.
And nothing gets done. Then the dream dies, the project stays incomplete for months or years, and our futures continue to look bleak.
But what if we took a new tact?
As an empty-nester, I'm considering what to do with a home that's outgrown me. I fixed it up last year with the intention of renting out my extra space. My goal was two-fold: to use the space wisely and to earn some extra income.
But I've been caught in the frustration of not finding a suitable renter, while spending lots of money on a home that's too big for little ol' me.
I could stay stuck in the frustration that "nothing's working" (believe me, I have!), or change my perspective just a tish.
Instead of fretting, I could consider other options.
Because my primary goal is to increase my cash flow, I can look beyond the idea of renting and consider all of the possibilities I already have available to me: I could sell my home and move into a smaller place, or become a roommate in someone else's home; I could develop more creative ways to sell my books; or create more workshops; or sell some furniture; or increase my hours at work; or...
As I write about other ways to increase my income, I'm no longer fixated on needing to move out of my home (which causes panic). I can look at the bigger picture and consider many more possibilities (which allows relaxation).
Even if some of the options may not be viable right now, they still offer new and different alternatives, which leads to more excitement, which then spurs a new list of possibilities, which hypes up my enthusiasm about my future. I have also come up with possibilities that I may not have been able to see previously.
I may not need to move out (panic), but can consider something entirely different (ah, sigh).
So the next time you feel stuck in glue about a decision, project, or a dream--expand your field of vision. "Brainstorm the ridiculous" by jotting down a list of possible options for solving the challenge you are facing.
Be creative, be different, be ridiculous.
Some new idea, a better alternative, or a fun adventure may best solve the challenge of your project, your dream, and your future. Something new and daring may pop out at you.
Then go do THAT.