"We often turn to God when our foundations are shaking, only to discover
that it is God who is shaking them."
You may be feeling overwhelmed by the chaos, confusion, and fear of trying to understand your partner's sexual addiction. It feels like like as you know it is over, and the relationship you thought you had just blew up without warning. I know that you have been shaken to your core and you just want to feel better. I can help you find your footing again and begin to build a more meaningful life.
"Here is an opportunity for the other side of sex addiction--those of use who love the addict--to be heard. We are seen as the sane survivors, the population without the problem, but we lose to the addiction, too. We suffer the same pain from the fall-out of addiction, and we endure the same craziness."  Kate Morgan
I am a woman who has walked in your shoes, and I know what sex addiction betrayal can do to your life. I remember the shock and the heartache that paralyzed me at the moment of impact, when my husband of ten years admitted to having had an affair. It wasn't for another week that the truth of his story would unfold when a letter from a stranger arrived in my mailbox, informing me that one affair was actually several.

I understand how your whole life can change in an instant. I understand how traumatizing it can feel to have the carpet pulled out from beneath your secure little feet.

Sex addiction invaded my life almost two decades ago, instantly throwing my world into a storm of chaos, heartbreak, and grief. After my husband's disclosure and many infidelities, I did what I swore I would not--I stayed. It took time to understand how I participated in our co-created dance of a marriage, to learn how to heal my sadness and rage, and then leave it all behind to start anew.

And I know that you think the gut-wrenching pain will be with you for life. I thought the same thing. I felt like I'd been kicked in the stomach...all day, everyday. But I had three babies to take care of so I couldn't stay in bed all day. I couldn't sob for hours. Nor could I run away. I was forced to face the truth of my life because I had no other choice. Neither do you. 

You can survive this and heal yourself back from betrayal. You can claim a life full of hope and laughter and healthy choices!

My work is all about helping you move beyond your personal experience, and claim a life worth waking up to. I help you transform any grief about the past or fear about the future, into fully embracing your new life--whether you stay in your relationship or not.
Common questions partners of sex addicts ask:               

  • How did I choose a destructive mate?
  • Will the gut-wrenching agony of betrayal ever go away?
  • Can I be happy again?
  • Should I stay with or leave this relationship?
  • Can I heal this and move on?  
  • Will I ever find a healthy relationship?
Common Misunderstandings about Sex Addiction:

  • It's NOT about sex.
  • It's NOT about the way you look or how much you weigh.
  • It's NOT about your education or career.
  • It's NOT about what you do or how you behave.
  • It's NOT about you.  

Sex addiction is about the addict and his/her inability to deal with intense feelings. It's about the addict's pain, and the inability to resolve it in a healthy manner. 

You didn't cause it, you can't control it, and you aren't able to cure it.