My Marriage to a Sex Addict Healed Me...
My name is Katie. As a Coach, Author, Speaker and Registered Nurse, I am eager to help women who feel stuck in the unhealthy cycle of dysfunctional and addictive love relationships. I help you find your courage, encourage you to take back your power, then assist you to create a life on your terms.
I was forced to confront my pattern of recycling the same destructive relationships when my marriage fell apart nearly two decades ago after finding out that my husband of ten years was a sex addict (for the whole story, click here).
Emotional pain is a strong motivator for change, so I quickly sought out whatever I could find to help me change my habits, my thinking, and my behaviors. I found a 12-step group, I joined a church, I read a mountain of self-help books, and challenged my patterns of choosing destructive mates. And ever so slowly, shifts began happening. I started changing the symptoms that led me to find men who couldn't engage in a healthy partnership.
Long before turning my life around, I'd spent much of my life suppressing my power, my intuition, my courage, and what I knew to be my truth. Instead, I tuned into the reality of others, and kept what I knew and thought to myself. After all, everyone else's lives looked perfectly put-together, and they seemed confident in their decisions and behaviors, so I chose to believe them, too--even when my intuition was nudging me to notice another truth. My truth.
Not listening to myself has gotten me into a heap of trouble, causing oodles of pain over many decades. I've been in relationships that have been bad for me; I've stopped having fun; I started playing it safe while missing out on the life I really wanted. And I completely lost myself.
Motivated by a desire to feel more awake and alive, I got real. I faced the awful truth of my marriage and my history of sex abuse. I started choosing happiness over perceived security, and I started taking care of myself instead of always being available to others. My life just kept changing for the better as I confronted my own misperceptions.
I used an awful story as a springboard to catapult me back into living--really living.
I was forced to confront my pattern of recycling the same destructive relationships when my marriage fell apart nearly two decades ago after finding out that my husband of ten years was a sex addict (for the whole story, click here).
Emotional pain is a strong motivator for change, so I quickly sought out whatever I could find to help me change my habits, my thinking, and my behaviors. I found a 12-step group, I joined a church, I read a mountain of self-help books, and challenged my patterns of choosing destructive mates. And ever so slowly, shifts began happening. I started changing the symptoms that led me to find men who couldn't engage in a healthy partnership.
Long before turning my life around, I'd spent much of my life suppressing my power, my intuition, my courage, and what I knew to be my truth. Instead, I tuned into the reality of others, and kept what I knew and thought to myself. After all, everyone else's lives looked perfectly put-together, and they seemed confident in their decisions and behaviors, so I chose to believe them, too--even when my intuition was nudging me to notice another truth. My truth.
Not listening to myself has gotten me into a heap of trouble, causing oodles of pain over many decades. I've been in relationships that have been bad for me; I've stopped having fun; I started playing it safe while missing out on the life I really wanted. And I completely lost myself.
Motivated by a desire to feel more awake and alive, I got real. I faced the awful truth of my marriage and my history of sex abuse. I started choosing happiness over perceived security, and I started taking care of myself instead of always being available to others. My life just kept changing for the better as I confronted my own misperceptions.
I used an awful story as a springboard to catapult me back into living--really living.
I'm on a mission to save families by empowering the women who raise them.
Betrayal can have a powerful and detrimental affect on your life, leaving you feeling depleted and unmotivated, with little energy or zest for life. But it does not mean it's time to give up. It's simply time to re-evaluate your choices, your values and desires, then change course. What matters is that you move beyond your disappointment or sorrow. It's what you choose to do in light of heartbreak that counts.
What I now share with others is that my personal tragedy in the form of sex addiction betrayal, family betrayal and self-betrayal--and the lessons I learned from them--brought me back to life.
What I now share with others is that my personal tragedy in the form of sex addiction betrayal, family betrayal and self-betrayal--and the lessons I learned from them--brought me back to life.
I know what the "moment of impact" feels like. I also know the other side of JOY.
Be authentic.
Be brave.
Be weird.
Be bold.
Be yourself.
Be.
"If a woman has a choice between saving her soul or saving her marriage,
she needs to save her soul." ~ Glennon Doyle Melton
"If a woman has a choice between saving her soul or saving her marriage,
she needs to save her soul." ~ Glennon Doyle Melton
I Can Help You:
My clients are well-educated, smart, wise women who are hard-working and productive in their lives, families, and jobs. They dream of a bigger life but don't know how to get there. They perform well below their potential and tend to hide their power. They can't figure out why, oh why, they keep recycling the same, addictive and dysfunctional men in different skin. They're tired and ready for some peace, some rest, and some fun.
Are you motivated to challenge thoughts and behaviors as you discover what leads you to relationships that wreak havoc in your life? I help you find your own best answers as we untangle the issues that block you from finding people who nurture and support you. I help you break free from destructive patterns, then teach you how to continue the untangling without me so you can keep the good juju flowing in your new-and-improved life.
My ideal client is someone who:
I offer a safe and confidential place to unload your darkest secrets or your worst fears as you navigate your way toward a more awake and happy life. Coaching with me will help you find more clarity so you can feel more confident about the choices you make. We can brainstorm together about what options are best for you.
My clients have told me that I am a wise and compassionate listener who offers a fresh perspective based on my own insights and experience. I have a savvy ability to see what's troubling you, then I help you find a way to bust through it.
- Untangle and calm your negative thoughts.
- Reclaim your power!
- Learn to use your intuition as a powerful guide.
- Stay grounded in your own truth.
- Challenge old beliefs that no longer work for you.
- Follow (or find) your JOY!
- Understand your patterns that keep you stuck.
- Stop believing the lousy stories you tell yourself.
- Move forward in your life--usually with baby steps, and sometimes with huge leaps.
My clients are well-educated, smart, wise women who are hard-working and productive in their lives, families, and jobs. They dream of a bigger life but don't know how to get there. They perform well below their potential and tend to hide their power. They can't figure out why, oh why, they keep recycling the same, addictive and dysfunctional men in different skin. They're tired and ready for some peace, some rest, and some fun.
Are you motivated to challenge thoughts and behaviors as you discover what leads you to relationships that wreak havoc in your life? I help you find your own best answers as we untangle the issues that block you from finding people who nurture and support you. I help you break free from destructive patterns, then teach you how to continue the untangling without me so you can keep the good juju flowing in your new-and-improved life.
My ideal client is someone who:
- Is committed to healing.
- Wants more out of life than just surviving.
- Is ready to take radical care of yourself.
- Is looking forward to having someone (yours truly!) maintain accountability.
- Wants to become the best version of yourself.
- Likes to think "outside the box".
- Wants to break dysfunctional relationship patterns.
I offer a safe and confidential place to unload your darkest secrets or your worst fears as you navigate your way toward a more awake and happy life. Coaching with me will help you find more clarity so you can feel more confident about the choices you make. We can brainstorm together about what options are best for you.
My clients have told me that I am a wise and compassionate listener who offers a fresh perspective based on my own insights and experience. I have a savvy ability to see what's troubling you, then I help you find a way to bust through it.
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Do You recognize yourself?
You feel:
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"I sensed from a very young age that I would one day experience a devastating event in my life--then survive it and share it with others. But after ten years of marriage, I had no idea that I was already deeply immersed in that story..." To read more, click here... |